Apology

It was “An experiment”, Marianne said, asking African Americans who were willing to participate to stand.  The woman whose comment caused the undertaking of this experiment (we’ll call her Kai) raised her hand, saying from her seated position, “I’m standing!”  Kai was physically unable to rise from her chair, her wheelchair tucked in an unused [...]

I Can’t Make a Difference

When faced with some of the issues of our time, I can find myself feeling defeated before I start.  They feel big.  I feel small.  What power do I hold???  What difference will anything I do make in this world??  Who would ever listen to anything I have to say??  And what issue do I [...]

Where Can You Go?

“Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start.”

Nido Qubein American Businessman and Motivational Speaker

Adopt Words, Not Resolutions

I find the affect that the coming of January 1st has on me really very interesting.  Though I think of myself as regularly evaluating my life and adjusting as needed, I get sucked into reacting to the markers of each year.  Maybe it’s just a natural thing and the coming of the New Year helps [...]

Ban Blackberry

Interesting move by VW to ban Blackberry usage.  I can see this would require a big re-think for some companies, probably more specifically, some departments within companies.  Never the less I like the effort to address work/life imbalance.

After all, how many things are so critical they have to be addressed before you start your [...]

Lies We Tell Ourselves

Over the course of time we come to believe certain things about ourselves. But sometimes we start to believe and hold onto something that just isn’t true.

The seed from which we grew any belief may not be evident. We may have had evidence that something was true; that is, we remembered a time [...]

How could I be so STUPID?

Some coaching clients of mine get caught up with thinking about why they are where they are.  I hear many question why it was that they did not realize a particular idea or concept, before now.  I see them beat themselves up over how “stupid” they have been.

If you consider yourself reasonably intelligent and [...]

Days that change your life

It’s day five of my trip to India and I’ve crumbled. I found myself embarrassingly in full tears as I said goodbye to my friend Suzy (of Suzy’s Mysore Blog) outside the Mysore market after having spent the day with her showing me her city. Maybe I should have seen it coming. As my visit [...]

Ever Been in a Dark Mood?

A few weeks back I was just walking along when I fell into this big, deep, dark abyss. I felt alone and it was frightening inside there. I hadn’t seen it coming. Actually, things were looking good at the time so I did not understand what was happening. Everything had appeared to be falling into [...]

Do You Notice What’s Good?

Someone recently told me of an exercise she once used to help her be more positive about life.  She had been instructed to, at the end of each day, write down five things for which she could be thankful.  She practiced this and found that, for the most part, she really could find five good [...]